I love this song. These guys are one of those bands I stumbled upon early and enjoy everything they put out.
Friday, September 4, 2015
Friday Music - Franz Ferdinand
I love this song. These guys are one of those bands I stumbled upon early and enjoy everything they put out.
Wednesday, September 2, 2015
Natural Style
I see two little wood mice looking for shelter in a September rain and meeting underneath their bright yellow umbrella...
Tuesday, August 18, 2015
Creedence Clearwater Revival
I've spent a good chuck of the last three days in my basement, avoiding the world, as I digest the funeral. It was a nice funeral, with an abundance of flowers, a nice priest and a pretty good turnout. It then went to the cemetery, while my sister in law's friend and I moved all of the flowers and memorabilia to the reception hall, where we dined on an extremely tasty lunch from a local Italian restaurant. The tortallini was exceptional, praise this east coast, Italian and Portuguese Rhode Island raised boy does not bestow willy nilly.
Afterwards, we went to the hotel, where the family was staying, and had desserts. By the time we were all done on Saturday, my entire family was exhausted. I ended up sleeping nearly 12 hours. On Sunday, we had a nice lunch with remaining family in town, but we're now moving on. The emptiness and the loss present; the purpose gone.
I've been listening to some great albums I've not heard in a long time. Creedence Clearwater Revival is part of that playlist. I find when I'm lost, I turn to my music. embracing the friend I can always depend on.
One thing I'm having a hard time moving past is the close family members who did not show, namely two siblings and his ex. I understand the frustration they might've had while on this mortal coil, but to not even find enough of a memory to go to the funeral of someone you endured a large portion of your life with...inexcusable.
He would have loved the party. I hope he was able to get a good view from where ever he is.
Afterwards, we went to the hotel, where the family was staying, and had desserts. By the time we were all done on Saturday, my entire family was exhausted. I ended up sleeping nearly 12 hours. On Sunday, we had a nice lunch with remaining family in town, but we're now moving on. The emptiness and the loss present; the purpose gone.
I've been listening to some great albums I've not heard in a long time. Creedence Clearwater Revival is part of that playlist. I find when I'm lost, I turn to my music. embracing the friend I can always depend on.
One thing I'm having a hard time moving past is the close family members who did not show, namely two siblings and his ex. I understand the frustration they might've had while on this mortal coil, but to not even find enough of a memory to go to the funeral of someone you endured a large portion of your life with...inexcusable.
He would have loved the party. I hope he was able to get a good view from where ever he is.
Friday, August 14, 2015
Tuesday, August 11, 2015
Death in the Family
I am sad. My wife's father, a man who'd been a father to me, died on Friday and I've been emotionally wrecked all week.
He went out about as good as one could, under the circumstances. His cancer had ravaged him, but even back in May he was still fairly active. He went the homeopathic route when diagnosed seven years ago, dramatically changing his diet and intake. You can't deny it did wonders. The problem was, in the final year, he kept looking for a homeopathic life extender. Thinking he was going to go to the desert and find a cactus plant or dirt mound which would cure him was nothing more than wishful thinking, but even I can't argue the thought there might be something to keep him going longer, kept him strong until the end. Back in June, I think he finally accepted reality.
He will be cremated, and buried on Saturday. This is my first time directly dealing with death, where I've had to help with the after planning.
Make sure you talk to your loved ones about it all. I know it's uncomfortable, but please do. Talk about the will, the power of attorney, the living will, a trust, and anything else which might be applicable. Talk about who you want to get what after you pass and make sure you understand the laws in your state on what happens to inheritance. Arizona, where my grandmother died, is a scheme, designed to get every bit of money out of the deceased and their family. No matter what you got, they will get it from you in AZ.
Make sure you say your goodbyes. Vern died with his daughters around him. They had been around him for the last few months and each one had had the opportunity to talk to him, tell him they loved him and said what needed to be said.
Life is short...undeniably brief. We, if lucky, inherit this planet for little more than 3/4ths of a century. Cherish it, and never let something go unsaid or unaddressed.
He went out about as good as one could, under the circumstances. His cancer had ravaged him, but even back in May he was still fairly active. He went the homeopathic route when diagnosed seven years ago, dramatically changing his diet and intake. You can't deny it did wonders. The problem was, in the final year, he kept looking for a homeopathic life extender. Thinking he was going to go to the desert and find a cactus plant or dirt mound which would cure him was nothing more than wishful thinking, but even I can't argue the thought there might be something to keep him going longer, kept him strong until the end. Back in June, I think he finally accepted reality.
He will be cremated, and buried on Saturday. This is my first time directly dealing with death, where I've had to help with the after planning.
Make sure you talk to your loved ones about it all. I know it's uncomfortable, but please do. Talk about the will, the power of attorney, the living will, a trust, and anything else which might be applicable. Talk about who you want to get what after you pass and make sure you understand the laws in your state on what happens to inheritance. Arizona, where my grandmother died, is a scheme, designed to get every bit of money out of the deceased and their family. No matter what you got, they will get it from you in AZ.
Make sure you say your goodbyes. Vern died with his daughters around him. They had been around him for the last few months and each one had had the opportunity to talk to him, tell him they loved him and said what needed to be said.
Life is short...undeniably brief. We, if lucky, inherit this planet for little more than 3/4ths of a century. Cherish it, and never let something go unsaid or unaddressed.
Friday, August 7, 2015
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Friday Music - Lili Haydn
Stepping off into the wilderness to go find a cowgirl... I always wanted to be a cowboy. This song should've been a much bigger hit.
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Another year down. Was in New Orleans, Savannah, Chicago, the Great Wilderness, and San Francisco. I had one of the better years of my life.
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I like when you rub up against me, as you make sure no one is looking. I just prefer the direct approach. Let's find a quieter place.
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It's a week plus where I focus more on the family and not on the friends. I'm looking forward to it. The protest song is alive and ...
